The solution is actually simple (but hard): To let go of the anger and finger-pointing and name-calling and hand-wringing, and just do the next right thing.

Deadly bridge collapse in Italy prompts finger-pointing over design flaws, funding. ... The collapsed Morandi Bridge is seen in the Italian port city of Genoa, Aug. 14, 2018. Reuters.

Why is it so rude to point at someone, even if the action is not meant to be cruel or demeaning, is not accompanied by laughter, even when the pointing finger is not guiding jeers to their target ...