My friends and I have debated this issue endlessly, with no consensus. From my POV, it's perfectly acceptable to text a guy "Thank you for dinner--I had a great time!" if he takes you out and pays.

Wanting More Than ‘Thank You, ... Our first date started at a trendy wine bar drinking rosé. At our next bar, grinding to early 2000s throwbacks, he asked if I wanted to go home with him.

When you go on a date with someone you really like, you're going to follow up afterward, she added. The same mentality should apply to post-interview thank-you notes, Firestone said.